The Fine Lines – An Introduction and an Invitation

Household Faith

There is a very fine line…

Everyone has answers.  And suggestions.  And words of advice.  Yet no one has walked in my shoes.  At least not in the sense that they fully understand my mission, my intent, or ultimately, my calling.

Events of the past year have brought my husband and me to the decision to sell our home, pack up our lives after only one year as empty nesters, and move into my mom’s home to offer support as her short term memory slowly disintegrates.  We could have waited because my mother is capable of caring for herself still.  But I wanted to be here while she still remembered. I wanted to still share in the day to day routine while it still existed.  I wanted to give her, and me, a quality that would not exist if I chose to wait a few months, a year, or until it was too late.

Looking in from the outside, there are many opinions.  But that’s no different than when I was learning how to be a mom for the first time.  Everyone had all the answers.  And suggestions.  And words of advice.  And then later, when my children were older and I had “mom” experience, people still spoke their observations out loud to me, uninvited, yet clearly articulated.

There are times I have felt experiences with my heart before my eyes could comprehend the magnitude upon my life.  But these experiences I kept to myself because I feared outsiders who looked into my world with a judgment call or an explanation I didn’t request.

Other times I have expressed my experiences and insights unashamed, only to find myself facing the very fear that held me silent before.  So I learned to guard my heart.  As a result, I have held many things hostage in my heart.  There are times I have not reached out because I feared a reprimand or criticism.  There are times I have held my tongue when speaking truth would have a rocked a boat or caused tension.  There are times I have watched from a distance instead of offering kindness.  But the time for silence is broken.

This blog is about the Fine Lines…the very fine lines between speaking and being silent; between believing and questioning; between understanding and accepting; between acting and standing down.  Such lines are so fragile they blur with a whisper of a breeze.  Yet so important that if missed, they may never again be captured.

Rating: 1 out of 5.

Published by judithkaywrites

Judith Kay has spent her life observing, listening, questioning, accepting, challenging, and wrestling with life’s toughest questions. Her writings reveal the answers, enmeshed in the tangled, sometimes messy analogies from everyday living. Judith Kay’s rural Iowa upbringing planted deep roots in core family values, a solid work ethic, and a humble spirit. These traits are personified in characters with deep convictions and heartfelt struggles. No stranger herself to disappointment, struggles, and grief, Judith Kay presents characters that wield their way into your heart, inviting you to seek your own answers along their journeys! Moving fluently between works of fiction and non-fiction, life-changing implications draw you into Judith Kay’s stories—sometimes challenging, other times affirming. Her quick wit and keen sense of authenticity keep you engaged. Her characters stay with you long after the story has ended. Out of My League continues with the second book in the series, A League of Our Own, due to release later this year. Stay tuned for more publications by Judith Kay including works of non-fiction, Household Faith, stories and analogies from Momhood, and Diagnosis Demetia, Prognosis Hope, a journey through Dementia, and Unspoken-nes, on Death and Dying – on Life and Living, observations and experiences with grief.

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